Tuesday, 5 January 2010

How to Keep a Clean Slate with Yourself

Image thanks to i.anton

“I try to avoid looking backward and keep looking upward.”
Charlotte Brontë

The only thing that ever truly holds us back from the dream life we deserve, as I have said, is ourselves. Often, this is because we are stuck solid on events in the past.

Think about it: we are creatures of our experiences, manifestations of our previous conditions; our entire world view is based upon our knowledge of the past. And what if our past wasn’t all that great? Tough luck, it seems. All we will ever know is that to attempt is to fail and to dream is to be disappointed; our past taught us a lesson and we dare not stray from it.

But what if we began to let our experience of the world be lead, instead, by our curiosity and aspirations of the future? What if we began thinking forward, instead of backward? What if our proverbial slate was always clean and never marked with issues of the past? Then, no longer would we limit ourselves to the confines of our personal histories, but instead saturate our lives with possibility and chance and grand expectation.

The fact is, it is impossible to grow as a person if you are forever holding on to the dead weight of your regrets. Imagine a daisy growing out of the earth; how could it sprout upwards if it kept the weight of all that dirt on its tiny petals? It couldn’t, so it forgets its grubby roots, shakes of the soil and looks to the sun.

It is an incredibly powerful thing to be able to forgive yourself and move wholeheartedly forward into the brightest future you choose. Remember that whether or not you feel you have been ‘amazing’ up until this point doesn’t matter, what matters is that you can be amazing, whatever that means to you. What matters is where you go from here.

Summary:

♥ We are creatures moulded by our pasts, but that doesn’t mean we cannot begin to thrive on the possibilities of the future.
♥ Lose the dead weight of regret.
♥ Whether your previous life has been amazing or not doesn’t matter. Now matters.

Homework:

This is a nice and easy homework, but very effective if completed with enough enthusiasm. On an entire clean page in your journal, write an affirmation of forgiveness and forward-thinking. It can be a line from this article, the above quote, another quote you know of, or something entirely thought-up by you. What is important, as always, is not how you go about things but how inspiring they feel to you. Think of it as a sort of motto for you: the clean slate superhero. I’m using:

I look forward, because there are no prizes left in the past.

I made this up to tie in with the fact that what I am motivated by (personal abundance) does not exist in the past for me, so I needn’t focus my attention there. Let me know what you come up with!

Now, whenever your notebook opens on this page, you will be reminded of this powerful statement, and you will keep a clear platform only for future success and not past regrets.

6 comments:

Sara said...

There's an quote from an Ani Difranco song that kind of reminds me that mistakes are ok.

'Half of learning how to play is learning what not to play'.

It makes me think about how you have to do things wrong to see how they don't fit in with what you're trying to do, iykwim!

Thanks for these pieces. Just what I need at this time of year :)

Greta said...

I chose the quote "There is nothing like a dream to create the future". That kind of sums it up, you know? Never forget your dreams, but turn them into your future reality. And don't let your past stop you from doing so.

StephanieDJL said...

Stolen from Oscar Wilde, I chose 'Every saint has a past and every sinner has a future' kinda morbid but I like it!

Jodi said...

Love, love, loooovvvee the Charlotte Bronte quote :)

Eternal*Voyageur @ Venusian*Glow said...

"Nobody can go back and start a new beginning, but anyone can start today and make a new ending." (Maria Robinson)
A friend had posted this on facebook, right on time !

Natalie said...

I am a bit late but catching up! My quote:

"March on. Do not tarry. To go forward is to move toward perfection. March on, and fear not the thorns, or the sharp stones on life's path."

Kahlil Gibran

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