Almost the only thing that ever truly holds us back from the dream life we deserve is, I believe, ourselves.
Often, this is because we are stuck solid on events in the past. Think about it: we are creatures of our experiences; manifestations of our previous conditions. Our entire world view is based upon our knowledge of the past. And what if our past wasn’t all that great? Tough luck, it seems. All we will ever know is that to attempt is to fail and to dream is to be disappointed - because our past taught us that lesson.
But what if we began to let our experience of the world be lead, instead, by our curiosity and aspirations for the future? What if we began thinking forward – or upward – instead of backward? What if our proverbial slate was always clean and not marked with the problems of the past? Then no longer would we limit ourselves to the confines of our personal histories, but instead saturate our lives with possibility and chance and grand expectation.
It is impossible to really grow as a person if you are forever holding on to the dead weight of your regrets. Imagine a daisy growing out of the earth; how could it sprout upwards if it kept the weight of all that dirt on its tiny petals? It couldn’t, so it forgets its grubby roots, shakes of the soil and looks to the sun.
It is an incredibly powerful thing to be able to forgive yourself and move wholeheartedly forward into the brightest future you choose. Remember that whether or not you feel your life has been ‘amazing’ up until this point doesn’t matter, what matters is that it can be amazing; what matters is where you go from here.
♥ We are creatures moulded by our pasts, but that doesn’t mean we cannot begin to thrive on the possibilities of the future.♥ Lose the dead weight of regret.♥ Whether you interpret your life up until this point as ‘amazing’ or not doesn’t matter. Now matters.
This is a nice and easy homework, but very effective if completed with enough enthusiasm. On an entire, clean page in your journal, write an affirmation of forgiveness and forward-thinking. Originally, back in 2010, I suggested that you use a line from this article, famous quote, or your own statement. This year I really want to encourage you to come up with your own because this will always mean so much more to you – and is an interesting way to excavate your authentic feeling on the topic.
This year I’m using:
‘Who I am begins again with every breath.’
I honestly don’t know where that came from, I just sat quietly for a moment and then POOF there it was, and yet it feels incredibly powerful for me. Let me know what you come up with!
Now, whenever your notebook opens on this page, you will be reminded of this powerful statement – keep it in your mind and you will keep a clear platform for future accomplishments and not past regrets.