Welcome to Make Your Life Amazing 2012! We are very pleased to have you join us. To newbies and returners alike, let's get the year started with a BANG. You will need a journal or notepad, cute pen, and lots of enthusiasm. Please make yourself known in the comments so we can all cheer you on along your adventure into the amazing.
You only live once, so you might as well do it right, right? Few people would disagree, and yet millions disagree through their actions every day. Your alarm goes off, you half fall out of bed, bump into the corner of your wardrobe and open the curtains on a grey day. It’s off to face the world again.
But we must believe that life is more than these days; allowing yourself to dream beyond them is the only way to get beyond them. Dreaming does not make you a sucker; it doesn’t make you naive. It makes you possible.
The truth is: you can be happier. The truth is that you are the only thing standing in the way of your own happiness, and of your own amazing life.
What’s holding you back?
There are many things that could be hovering in the way of your more amazing life: the expectations placed on you, status-quo, indecision... but I’d hazard that it is mostly fear. You only get the big win by taking a chance, and taking a chance is scary. Western life is comfortable – too comfortable. It is comfortable and it doesn’t challenge us, so, on the most part, we don’t challenge it. We think: what’s the point?
Of course, you may not feel you are literally afraid of being your dream self. You probably feel quite the opposite; you’re probably gasping for it. But I suspect that somehow, on some level, it doesn’t feel right; it doesn’t feel deserved. It feels uncomfortable. It feels scary.
♥ Being unhappy is not a given. You don’t have to accept your life as it is, if it is not good enough.♥ You are the only thing standing in the way of your dream life.♥ Your first mission is to beat the fear.
Stop being scared of your dream self - create a picture of your amazing life.
In the first page of your notebook you’re going to sketch your dream self. Drawing is not my forté, so don’t worry if it’s not yours either. We’re not trying to be Picasso reincarnate, nor does anyone ever have to see the picture; we just want to have an image we can relate to.
Have a few goes as practice if you like, and see which elements feel most exciting. This isn’t just a style exercise; draw anything. Include representative items such as: a wooden spoon to represent a baking career; a big diamond ring to represent marriage to the love of your life; a flower to represent your own perfect home with a garden. The drawing can be completely abstract or symbolic, as long it means something to you. See what I came up with:
I felt totally goofy doing this one, even more so than last year. I think maybe it felt more childish because I used colour. But I decided that that goofiness – that vulnerable feeling – made the exercise all the more important because I was able to see the light-heartedness in it, and thus am able to approach the things represented in a more light-hearted way!
Sit with your sketch for a moment. What’s to fear? Why are you not already this self? In what ways are you already this self? The childishness and inherent simplicity in the exercise will hopefully help you to see there is nothing to fear in being a dreamer, an aspiration-alist, and that most amazing version of you.